Reflections + Realisations Of Late

It was my birthday last month, and birthdays always make me reflect on the year that has passed. So I thought I’d take this opportunity to share some realisations I’ve had and lessons I’ve learned.

Some of these are big lessons and some are little, but all of them are things that I want to remember for my next year around the sun…


I am definitely an introvert but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy spending time with people

I should have went to the doctor years ago regarding my mental health, but I finally went last year and that’s what matters… There’s no point beating myself up over something I can’t change.

Doing the things that scare you will help you grow!

The world isn’t going to end if I don’t get every single thing ticked off my to do list that day

Making friends as an adult is hard, but when you do find one it makes you appreciate them a million times more.

If you’re passionate about the work you’re doing, it’s still going to feel like work… but it’s work you love and that’s what matters.

Stretch marks are nothing to be ashamed of – they are natural and ya know what? They’re pretty fucking cute

Over the ear headphones are a million times better than in ear headphones (and I don’t care if they make me look stupid)

Buying a proper coffee machine is worth every single penny!

As are good coffee beans.

Oh and while we’re on the topic of coffee, I’m always more productive when I’m working from a cafe. However, it’s not always realistic to do that. I unfortunately don’t have an endless supply of money to spend on oat milk flat whites (on that note, if you fancy buying me a coffee then I would be forever grateful)

Podcasts are great for productivity, but they’re also great if you’re feeling lonely. While the loneliness isn’t going to magically disappear, having someone “chat” in your ear does help

There’s so much comfort in finding your community. I’ve made so many blogging pals over the last year, and I will always be grateful for that

I’m no less of a blogger because I use the occasional stock photo

Just because you don’t talk to someone regularly doesn’t mean they don’t care.

I’m not cut out to be a lawyer… and that’s okay.

A quick catch up with a friend really can turn your whole week around.

You can never have too many blankets… or candles… or notebooks… or plants

Having someone who you can talk openly about your mental health with is VITAL

My memory is atrocious, and if there’s something I need to remember then I better write it down… Hence why I definitely should’ve been keeping track of the things I’ve learned over the last year oops

And that’s a wrap!

What is something you learned or realised lately? I would love to know if ya don’t mind sharing with me!



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  • Ornella says:

    This resonated with me so much! Especially this: “If you’re passionate about the work you’re doing, it’s still going to feel like work… but it’s work you love and that’s what matters.”

    And it’s so interesting – I realised that law wasn’t for me (in law school – after seven years of my life ha). It took me awhile to accept, but I remember walking out of a three hour exam on hour in and knowing that I was done and it wasn’t for me.

    My birthday was this month and one thing that I realised was: no matter how late it feels, as long as you’re still breathing, it really isn’t. Society has a bad habit of making us think that life is screwed if we don’t get our sh*t together by our 30s but you know what? That’s not even middle aged! I wish I’d told younger me that I still had a lot of time left xx

    • rbekhaj says:

      I’m so glad it resonated with you!

      It took me a while to accept too – I’m currently in my last year of law school, so a bit late to realise but oh well! It’s definitely never too late to do something you love, and I’m glad you’ve realised that. Happy belated birthday! xx

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